Thanks for the feedback,I agree on the stance, the idea on my head is to start rallies backhand to backhand as in to avoid my opponent forehand, but I can see now this is limiting my forehand and it is not like im being aggressive on my backhand either. I agree also on the weight transfer issue, however I really think it was only on this match or may be in competitions in general (the match was an official match btw). In these kind of situations I tend to play what seems to be safe and working rather than what I normally do. But maybe what I feel is not what is really happening, in my club I tend to play mid-distance with alotta rotations and work from the hip and waist as you suggested, my stomach sometimes hurt but may be Im not doing it right. I have two sets in footage against a player from my club,I guess it will kinda clarify this for me. I will look into stance and positioning issue online, we don't really practice that.
Playing backhand rallies is fine, playing backhand rallies in an extreme backhand stance close to the table is a no-no. You have to learn to play your backhand and forehand out of similar stances close to the table. Otherwise, good players take advantage of your transition requirements by placing a fast ball to the side your footwork is not ready for because they know the shot will be weak. You need to be more neutral to the table.
What you are doing is normal for many learning adults, especially the ones who are allowed to practice strokes in the positions they feel comfortable in without combining forehand and backhand consistently close to the table. But to get better fast, you have to either play strong shots that don't come back out of that stance, or shots that limit the angle of play in a way that forces the ball to come back to you. I used to get away with playing that way because everyone tried to attack the backhand and it was my stronger side. But good coaches would tell their students to play my forehand or to play my transition game and then I would struggle. Similar issues kept me from developing a strong forehand flick or push game for many years. Mine is still below my overall level, but it is better than it used to be.
I worked out my ready position to be slightly biased for the forehand and then to take a step forward with the right foot to play balls close to the table or to take a slight step back with the left foot to play balls down the line or for more aggressive backhands. But because of my experience, I practice all my strokes out of that mild forehand bias stance and can play forehands and backhands to all positions on the table out of it even though the backhand down the line is really hard for me. But then it makes me play quicker in response to incoming balls so the only issues are when someone plays to my elbow and I have to play a hard shot (means I have to move).
So stance and positioning is something that you may not consciously practice, but all adult players need to be aware of it. It even helps with strategy vs opponents at lower levels. You can tell what shot they want to play by how they stand and where you should put the ball to get a weak shot. I guess I know because people used to do it to me all the time.
What you do is that you try to practice as many shots as possible out of one stance. And by as many shots, I mean forehand and backhand loop and block to all points on the table. Do it with multiball, X and H drills and random feeds from both forehand and backhand. This will be the stance you call or link to your ready position. Then all the footwork around the first two or three balls is about getting out of that stance to play the ball and getting back into it to play the next ball and knowing how to return to it or what your options are when you are not in it IT's okay to leave the stance to play aggressive shots, but it is not okay to be out of the stance after playing a passive shot as you cannot predict where your opponent is going and you need to be ready.
I am responding mostly for people without coaches, sequencing your moves in and out of your ready position can take years to fully develop and until you develop it, there will always be serves you have trouble returning which is the biggest gap as the earlier in the point you have a weakness, the bigger it becomes.
