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Guys, wanted your unbiased opinions to make sure I am thinking right.
Here's the background , I play in the afternoon for an hour with my friends in a club after work before heading back home . I go there sometimes in the weekends if somebody is willing to play and I am able to make it, physically and schedule wise. I have been playing here for the last 6 months, not a lot of people but the facilities are good.
Recently , the club changed ownership and a group of people took over. They are pooling money together to keep it afloat and ofcourse have future plans on where to to take it etc.
I have monthly membership there and thats where my involvement ends.
So I walk into the club and I see this guy playing , he has hit with me before and he has seen me play other friends of mine earlier. Their ratings ranging from 1600-2200. You will understand shortly, why I brought up the rating.
He was playing with another young guy , but he came up to me and asked are 1600, I want to play you. I said okay fine. Did not see the other guy complain, so went along with it feeling they might have played already and wanted a change.
Tried to warm up , he kept hitting the ball everywhere trying to win every warmup rally I was trying to initiate. Mind that he is a pen holder at a decent level , so it should not be too hard for him to keep it on the table consistently to help some body warm up. I tried to go along with it for around 3-4 minutes and then decided its a lost cause and asked for him to start playing games.
He had pretty good penhold serves, with good deception on spin, and was mixing side and side top , keeping it in the middle . I was having trouble and lost the first game 11-5 or 6 I don't remember. At this point his friend walks in and immediately he says I don't want to play you anymore.
At first, I was dumbstruck and this behavior and then called him out on it. Saying , that I don't want to play you ever, please don't ask me again. And I did call it out pretty loudly so that everybody in the club could hear it. I told him that is very bad behavior.
So he wants to come back and finish it and I said no. Then I waited for my other friend to finish playing games so that I can play the winner of the table next. I was complaining to him that this is simply rude and intolerable when he comes back trying to explain to me that I said I was 1600 and I was not. I told him that it did not matter , its just bad behavior.
Now , my official USATT rating is 1683 . I play around that level , depending on how good I have warmed up that day , whether I am physically fit and moving well. I do have my weaknesses and I definitely do better against a lot of players and don't against a lot others.
Anyway, no excuses for my behavior , and I could have walked away with a mental note never to play that guy again without calling him out.
What do you think is the best course of action in such a situation ? Is he justified in behaving this way ? Or what I think as a common courtesy is not very common and I am expecting too much ?
I don't want to name the club or the player or their ethnicity, because I don't want to sound racial and I honestly believe that people are just people , for better or worse .
I am fine with a player not wanting to play me for whatever reason, but to invite somebody to play and not finishing the game was too much insult and I felt I should give it back for my own self respect as a person, if not as a player
Here's the background , I play in the afternoon for an hour with my friends in a club after work before heading back home . I go there sometimes in the weekends if somebody is willing to play and I am able to make it, physically and schedule wise. I have been playing here for the last 6 months, not a lot of people but the facilities are good.
Recently , the club changed ownership and a group of people took over. They are pooling money together to keep it afloat and ofcourse have future plans on where to to take it etc.
I have monthly membership there and thats where my involvement ends.
So I walk into the club and I see this guy playing , he has hit with me before and he has seen me play other friends of mine earlier. Their ratings ranging from 1600-2200. You will understand shortly, why I brought up the rating.
He was playing with another young guy , but he came up to me and asked are 1600, I want to play you. I said okay fine. Did not see the other guy complain, so went along with it feeling they might have played already and wanted a change.
Tried to warm up , he kept hitting the ball everywhere trying to win every warmup rally I was trying to initiate. Mind that he is a pen holder at a decent level , so it should not be too hard for him to keep it on the table consistently to help some body warm up. I tried to go along with it for around 3-4 minutes and then decided its a lost cause and asked for him to start playing games.
He had pretty good penhold serves, with good deception on spin, and was mixing side and side top , keeping it in the middle . I was having trouble and lost the first game 11-5 or 6 I don't remember. At this point his friend walks in and immediately he says I don't want to play you anymore.
At first, I was dumbstruck and this behavior and then called him out on it. Saying , that I don't want to play you ever, please don't ask me again. And I did call it out pretty loudly so that everybody in the club could hear it. I told him that is very bad behavior.
So he wants to come back and finish it and I said no. Then I waited for my other friend to finish playing games so that I can play the winner of the table next. I was complaining to him that this is simply rude and intolerable when he comes back trying to explain to me that I said I was 1600 and I was not. I told him that it did not matter , its just bad behavior.
Now , my official USATT rating is 1683 . I play around that level , depending on how good I have warmed up that day , whether I am physically fit and moving well. I do have my weaknesses and I definitely do better against a lot of players and don't against a lot others.
Anyway, no excuses for my behavior , and I could have walked away with a mental note never to play that guy again without calling him out.
What do you think is the best course of action in such a situation ? Is he justified in behaving this way ? Or what I think as a common courtesy is not very common and I am expecting too much ?
I don't want to name the club or the player or their ethnicity, because I don't want to sound racial and I honestly believe that people are just people , for better or worse .
I am fine with a player not wanting to play me for whatever reason, but to invite somebody to play and not finishing the game was too much insult and I felt I should give it back for my own self respect as a person, if not as a player