serve is too high if it was me i would have smashed u all around improve ur serve keep it low nd use differerent variations slow up the serve keep it short sometimes deep
Yep. That is what I was thinking. Those serves, from both players are too high, too long and too predictable. It does not seem like there is any deception. You always know where the serve is going to go, and it is high. Against a good player, all of those serves would get put away. I think the two players are focused on trying to get spin on the ball and not on control. You need both. If you get the ball really short and it has no spin, it will be a better serve than any of those. If you get it short and learn to vary the spin--heavy, light, underspin, topspin, sidespins--it will help.
It is also interesting that, when you are receiving serve, kiwiNCFC, you are standing pretty much in the middle of the table, and you are turned to your backhand, and you are setting your paddle for your backhand. You should watch how the top players receive serve and imitate them. Usually they start way on the backhand side of the table. They start facing open for a forhand, right foot farther back than the left foot and the body turned a little towards the right. They keep the paddle lower than the table, so the opponent cannot see what they are looking for. They bend their knees so much before receiving serve that their eyes are about the hight of the net. You can see the table better from there. And if they are thinking backhand they move into position for it in the middle of the serve motion as the player is contacting the ball. But they do not show that to their opponent.
A good player, serving to someone standing in the middle of the table with the blade high and everything in body motion and paddle saying "give it to my backhand" would serve you deep to the backhand where you could not possibly reach it, and then if you moved over to the backhand side and were still turned to your backhand they would serve you deep to your forehand where you could not possibly reach it. You are lucky your playing partner is telegraphing where he is serving to so you know pretty much where the ball is going.
Another thing I notice with the serves, this is also something you are both doing, you are trying to spin the ball a lot by the pace of your racket and you are making a lot of contact. That is actually not how you get a lot of spin on the serve. You want to make a different kind of contact. Unless you are serving long to surprise your opponent and want pace without too much spin, you should use what is called brush contact. I don't think the term describes it right. You want to catch the edge of the ball, let the ball sink in to the rubber a little, which means that on contact the blade should not be moving too fast, and then you want to snap your wrist and accelerate the speed of your blade after the tiniest part of the edge of the ball sinks in to the rubber. It is similar to how you would want to make contact for a touch loop against heavy underspin. You are contacting the whole ball directly the way a person playing baseball or tennis would hit directly into the ball. For heavy spin you want to just contact the edge of the ball.
Now, all that being said, your strokes are good, your technique is good, you are doing a lot of things well. Most of the things that need improvement that I am talking about really just have to do with playing with a lot of higher level players. And of course, everybody needs work on things like footwork and serve and receive drills.