I lost my spark for playing TT

[Wakkibatty]

Try a really good one ply. Never fails to get me motivated.

(Full Disclosure: In my case, that involves making a new one ply -- which also helps enormously -- but can also lead to other problems of it's own... like for example, asking yourself "gee, I wonder what rubber will go best with this?" 😂)

But seriously - if you're tiring of the game, try a really good one ply - It's a whole new world.

 

[lodro]

But it is. There is an old Chinese saying “情人眼里出西施” , commonly translated to “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”

Them's two different things, beauty is one, cute is another

 

[TensorBackhand]

I just won 4-3 against 2100 japanese coach player.

I always play to my opponents level. I play horrible against 1500 player but strong against 2000 player.

 

[TensorBackhand]

Probably the best game of my life and i didnt record it

 

[DukeGaGa]

Them's two different things, beauty is one, cute is another

Ok then “Cuteness is in the eyes of the beholder” lol All I’m trying to say is , cute or not is subjective, not objective. It’s a human emotion that someone or something feels cute, or cute for you doesn’t have to be cute for others. Like some people like pigs, so then pigs are cute to them. Some people likes snakes, so snakes are cute to them. Or bugs, or lizards, or other stuff.

 

[UpSideDownCarl]

Or teach gf how to play TT

This is such a bad idea that it is funnier. .

Agree with NextLevel on this. It might be good to have things that you do in common with a significant other. But it is also good to have things that are interests of your own that give you some space from your wife, girlfriend, significant other....

There are other kinds of activities and hobbies that are not so competitive that would work better for mutual interest hobbies.

 

[DukeGaGa]

Agree with NextLevel on this. It might be good to have things that you do in common with a significant other. But it is also good to have things that are interests of your own that give you some space from your wife, girlfriend, significant other....

There are other kinds of activities and hobbies that are not so competitive that would work better for mutual interest hobbies.

But if gf wants to learn then that’s a whole different story 😆

 

[DukeGaGa]

Just so everyone knows what Sun Yingsha looks like with long hair

 

[NextLevel]

But if gf wants to learn then that’s a whole different story 😆

Pay someone to coach her - again, coaching her is a big mistake.

 

[DukeGaGa]

Pay someone to coach her - again, coaching her is a big mistake.

Well that’s your opinion, so we’ll have to agree to disagree here.

 

[NextLevel]

Well that’s your opinion, so we’ll have to agree to disagree here.

No, it's not just my opinion, but I don't know you and you don't know me. By all means, treat your girlfriends as you please.

 

[DukeGaGa]

No, it's not just my opinion, but I don't know you and you don't know me. By all means, treat your girlfriends as you please.

But it is your opinion. Unless you can prove it scientifically that someone teaching their gf table tennis is bad, it is just your opinion.

 

[TensorBackhand]

I just won 4-3 against 2100 japanese coach player.

I always play to my opponents level. I play horrible against 1500 player but strong against 2000 player.

This guy told me that he works for a TT school in Japan as a coach. He's just in the states for a few months to study English. And he said his friend works at the same TT company as Ayano Takeda from Ayalog.

My friend got a short recording of 1 or 2 points from us.

 

[TensorBackhand]

This is a pretty bad video, but its all I have. If i knew i was about to play the best match of my life i wouldve setup my tripod

 

[NextLevel]

But it is your opinion. Unless you can prove it scientifically that someone teaching their gf table tennis is bad, it is just your opinion.

There is no scientific proof that anything is good or bad,, to make that statement is to misunderstand the nature of science. If thinking anything is good or bad is an opinion, sure you are on safe ground. What you need to ask is whether you are more likely or less likely to have certain results when you teach your girlfriend table tennis. And that is a question that I have data for using analysis of other intersexual interactions, and the answer to it is not just my opinion. Again, there is no point discussing it or sharing it on a forum like this, especially with someone who misconstrues the ability of science to prove moral values.

 

[DukeGaGa]

There is no scientific proof that anything is good or bad,, to make that statement is to misunderstand the nature of science. If thinking anything is good or bad is an opinion, sure you are on safe ground. What you need to ask is whether you are more likely or less likely to have certain results when you teach your girlfriend table tennis. And that is a question that I have data for using analysis of other intersexual interactions, and the answer to it is not just my opinion. Again, there is no point discussing it or sharing it on a forum like this, especially with someone who misconstrues the ability of science to prove moral values.

lol exactly my point, there is no way to prove it scientifically, thus it is just your opinion. See that’s why it’s important to know what to say , and let others realize the idea themselves. Also, every person is different, your experience is just your experience, it doesn’t necessarily apply to everyone else. And I say, if you think it is bad for someone to teach table tennis to their girlfriend, then there is something wrong with that person’s commutation skills. Teaching to the core is just communication, if the result of that communication ends in a bad way, then the process of that communication is at fault, not the subject.

 

[UpSideDownCarl]

You guys are silly. If you are in a relationship with someone and you put yourself in a position where there is an imbalanced POWER DYNAMIC, it obviously something that will risk the long term viability of your relationship.

Which is also why I would not even look to get a sexual partner too interested in TT at all.

If I met someone who was already a TT player, maybe that is different. But....I am not so sure that would work for me either. It adds many more opportunities for contentious actions between you and your girlfriend or intimate partner and in regular life, there are really enough opportunities for that.

But if you are trying to coach that intimate partner, then you are throwing yourself into a scenario where you are the person who knows and you are "teaching" her......there are any number of psychological studies on how this can create real and serious issues in a relationship.

As to if you had a girlfriend and got her a TT coach, if she was going to go off with the TT coach, and/or you were worried about that, then she was not the right one for you in the first place. That part of this subject is being talked about at a very immature level.

There are catch phrases about dating people where you work that warn it can be dangerous. Things like how you would not want to eat where you go to the bathroom.....I would think about that dynamic here. Sure, it could work some of the time. But it could also cause you to break up with someone who might otherwise have been a really good life partner for you. It is worth assessing the risks and the rewards.

 

[DukeGaGa]

You guys are silly. If you are in a relationship with someone and you put yourself in a position where there is an imbalanced POWER DYNAMIC, it obviously something that will risk the long term viability of your relationship.

Which is also why I would not even look to get a sexual partner too interested in TT at all.

If I met someone who was already a TT player, maybe that is different. But....I am not so sure that would work for me either. It adds many more opportunities for contentious actions between you and your girlfriend or intimate partner and in regular life, there are really enough opportunities for that.

But if you are trying to coach that intimate partner, then you are throwing yourself into a scenario where you are the person who knows and you are "teaching" her......there are any number of psychological studies on how this can create real and serious issues in a relationship.

As to if you had a girlfriend and got her a TT coach, if she was going to go off with the TT coach, and/or you were worried about that, then she was not the right one for you in the first place. That part of this subject is being talked about at a very immature level.

There are catch phrases about dating people where you work that warn it can be dangerous. Things like how you would not want to eat where you go to the bathroom.....I would think about that dynamic here. Sure, it could work some of the time. But it could also cause you to break up with someone who might otherwise have been a really good life partner for you. It is worth assessing the risks and the rewards.

But why does there have to be an imbalance in power dynamics? Is that what teaching is? A show of “you know better”? If that’s how you teach, no wonder you think it’s bad to teach your partner. Like I said, teaching is just another name we call communication, and there’s always a right way to communicate that benefits both parties involved in said communication. And it doesn’t have to be tt, what about other things in life, no one’s knows everything, so you’ll have to teach something to your partner eventually, so do you just avoid all such scenarios? Like if you learnt a magic trick, and your girlfriend wants to learn it, you’ll be like “no can do, magician’s code”, or maybe “learn it from that guy, they taught me”, or just change the subject and avoid eye contact? Or let’s say you read a really interesting and informative article, and your girlfriend wants to know what you’ve learned from it, do you say “go read it yourself”?

 

[UpSideDownCarl]

But why does there have to be an imbalance in power dynamics? Is that what teaching is? A show of “you know better”? If that’s how you teach, no wonder you think it’s bad to teach your partner. Like I said, teaching is just another name we call communication, and there’s always a right way to communicate that benefits both parties involved in said communication.

The issue is, if you are the one who knows and she is the one who is learning, no matter how you communicate, there is said to be an imbalanced power dynamic. Now this kind of thing happens all the time in our lives and we navigate them. So it is not always something that cannot be navigated. But if you are putting yourself in a position with an intimate partner where you are the person who is more talented at something and you are showing that intimate partner how to do it, and that dynamic is one that is ongoing and will stay in that same balance for a while (3 years from now you are still the one who is more skilled at TT and still showing her or playing with her despite the differential in skills) it could lead to other social communication patters where that power dynamic is reinforced.

It is just something that could lead to problems.

If you think you can be the better player and continue being the better player and continue being the one who is doing the coaching without it changing or creating a pattern for other aspects of your relationship.....then, that would be interesting to observe from a socialogical perspective to see how socially self aware you actually are.

 

[DukeGaGa]

The issue is, if you are the one who knows and she is the one who is learning, no matter how you communicate, there is said to be an imbalanced power dynamic. Now this kind of thing happens all the time in our lives and we navigate them. So it is not always something that cannot be navigated. But if you are putting yourself in a position with an intimate partner where you are the person who is more talented at something and you are showing that intimate partner how to do it, and that dynamic is one that is ongoing and will stay in that same balance for a while (3 years from now you are still the one who is more skilled at TT and still showing her or playing with her despite the differential in skills) it could lead to other social communication patters where that power dynamic is reinforced.

It is just something that could lead to problems.

If you think you can be the better player and continue being the better player and continue being the one who is doing the coaching without it changing or creating a pattern for other aspects of your relationship.....then, that would be interesting to observe from a socialogical perspective to see how socially self aware you actually are.

Seems like you quoted while I added some stuff, so I’ll post it here again.

And it doesn’t have to be tt, what about other things in life, no one’s knows everything, so you’ll have to teach something to your partner eventually, so do you just avoid all such scenarios? Like if you learnt a magic trick, and your girlfriend wants to learn it, you’ll be like “no can do, magician’s code”, or maybe “learn it from that guy, they taught me”, or just change the subject and avoid eye contact? Or let’s say you read a really interesting and informative article, and your girlfriend wants to know what you’ve learned from it, do you say “go read it yourself”?

And I do think teaching your partner things can and have been done well. If you keep the “power dynamic” in mind, maybe that’s why it’s causing problems. It doesn’t have to be like that, and you don’t have to be the one teaching either, if your partner showed you something you don’t know, is that what you think? “Oh no, she taught me stuff, now she has power over me, what should I do? I need to teach her some stuff too, then it’ll be even.”

But in the end, these are all our own OPINIONS, it’s not a fact, that’s the most important thing here.