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Appreciate the insight.
That's completely fair & correct to say you really need a match of me playing these guys. Unfortunately, I missed club last week and the week before they weren't at club. Long story short, I haven't played them in a while or have taped any of my matches. I will try to do so this Sunday, assuming the wife has no problems with me going to club on Mother's Day.
"understand the elements of ball quality and good placement and just play all players that way - stop serving bad long serves, stop putting the ball habitually into strike zones, stop letting people return all your balls while hardly moving etc."
I will try to focus on overall ball quality. That's good advice.
My serve scores me a lot of points vs people who don't know my style. However, Ben has played me a million times and a lot of my go-to serves, he eats up. I suspect it's largely because they're of low quality. Not low enough, not spiny enough or placed right into his wheelhouse (I think that's a big thing for him. Even though I'm almost 10 years older than him, i don't think his movement and/or athleticism is all that great. Just can't hit the ball right to him where he's comfortable). So I will take this into account going forward.
Example:
Vs my serve he stands almost dead center of the table. He knows that if I try my He Zhi Wen style wide serve, he will loop kill that ball with no regard to if it has side/top or side/back on it. And vs anything served to his backhand, which he is giving me wide open, he flips that receive 80% of the time and it pisses me off to no end. I know that a good backspin serve there that's spiny & low should not be able to be flipped like that... at least from an amateur. Not like I'm playing FZD here. So the quality & placement of it is bad. I will work on it.
Thanks... and be on the lookout for some video coming up after a while. Appreciate it.